Tuesday, February 26, 2013

When Adversity Knocks...Mindful Presence helps..


A young man went to a monk complaining about his life and how things were so hard. He did not know how he was going to make it and wanted to give up. He was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose. 
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The monk took him to a kitchen and filled three pots with water. In the first, he placed carrots, in the second he placed eggs and the last he placed ground coffee beans. He let them sit and boil without saying a word
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He fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then he ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to the man, he asked, “Tell me, what do you see?” “Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” the man replied.
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He brought him closer and asked him to feel the carrots. He did and noted that they were soft. He then asked him to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, he observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked him to sip the coffee. The man smiled, as he tasted its rich aroma. The man then asked. “What's the point?”
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The monk explained “each of these objects has faced the same adversity --boiling water -- but each reacted differently”.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.
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“Which are you?” the monk asked . “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"
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Are you the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do you wilt and become soft and lose your strength?
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Are you the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did you have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a break-up, a financial hardship or some other trial, have you become hardened and stiff? Does your shell look the same, but on the inside are you bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?
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Or are you like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavour. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.
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When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?  Which are you?


Thursday, February 21, 2013

Mindfulness: experiencing what is there

Mindfulness is "openly experiencing what is there." It is about having as full as possible awareness of what is around us - what we can see, hear, touch and taste. And what is happening inside - our thoughts and feelings. Crucially it is about observing all this but not getting caught up in thinking and worrying about what we are observing. It then gives us more control of what we decide to give our attention to.


Friday, February 15, 2013

Effect of Mindfulness


Psychologists studying the effects of a meditation technique known as “mindfulness” found that meditation-trained participants showed a significant improvement in their critical cognitive skills (and performed significantly higher in cognitive tests than a control group) after only four days of training for only 20 minutes each day.

“In the behavioural test results, what we are seeing is something that is somewhat comparable to results that have been documented after far more extensive training,” said Fadel Zeidan, a postdoctoral researcher at Wake Forest University School of Medicine, and a former doctoral student at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte, where the research was conducted.

“Simply stated, the profound improvements that we found after just 4 days of meditation training are really surprising”.


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Thursday, February 14, 2013

No problems in the Now


In answer to the following question (“my problems are still waiting for me, aren’t they? They haven’t been solved. Am I temporarily evading them?”) Tolle writes in: “The Power of Now”

“Ultimately , this is not about solving your problems. It’s about realizing that there are no problems. Only solutions – to be dealt with now, or to be left alone and accepted as part of the “isness” of the present moment until they change or can be dealt with. Problems are mind-made and need time to survive. They cannot survive in the actuality of the Now

I am not getting an answer because it is impossible to have a problem when your attention is fully in the Now. A situation that needs to be either dealt with or accepted – yes. Why make it into a problem? Why make anything into a problem? Isn’t life challenging enough as it is? What do you need problems for? The mind unconsciously loves problems because they give you an identity of sorts. This is normal, and it is insane. “Problem” means you are dwelling on a situation mentally without there being a true intention or possibility of taking action now and you are unconsciously making it part of your sense of self. You become so overwhelmed by your life situation that you lose your sense of life, of Being. Or you are carrying in your mind the insane burden of a hundred things that you will or may have to do in the future instead of focusing your attention on the one thing that you can do now.”

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Interesting what Psychologists say about a little Mindful Meditation does


Psychologists studying the effects of a meditation technique known as “mindfulness” found that meditation-trained participants showed a significant improvement in their critical cognitive skills (and performed significantly higher in cognitive tests than a control group) after only four days of training for only 20 minutes each day.

“In the behavioural test results, what we are seeing is something that is somewhat comparable to results that have been documented after far more extensive training,” said Fadel Zeidan, a postdoctoral researcher at Wake Forest University School of Medicine, and a former doctoral student at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte, where the research was conducted.

“Simply stated, the profound improvements that we found after just 4 days of meditation training are really surprising”.

“It goes to show that the mind is, in fact, easily changeable and highly influenced, especially by meditation.”


Friday, February 8, 2013

Self Worth and Confidence


"If you have a sincere and open heart, you naturally feel self-worth and confidence, and there is no need to be fearful of others".
Dalai Lama


Thursday, February 7, 2013

Making the Change


1. What problem, situation, or area of your life do you want to improve?
2. What emotions are you feeling?
3. What physical sensations are you feeling?
4. What are you thinking about?
5. What is the worst thing that could happen in this situation?
6. What is the best thing that could happen?
7. What fear or limiting belief is keeping you from creating what you want in this situation?
8. Create an affirmation to counteract and correct the negative, limiting belief.
9. Say or write your affirmation repeatedly, over a period of several days.


Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Peace

Once you stop clinging and let things be, you’ll be free, even of birth and death. You’ll transform everything…And you’ll be at peace wherever you are."

Bodhidharma

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Lao Tzu says


"By letting go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond the winning.

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be."

Monday, February 4, 2013

The Present Moment Relationship


"If your relationship to the present moment is not right - nothing can ever be right in the future - because when the future comes - it's the present moment."

Tolle

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Sunday, February 3, 2013

This Moment Now


Life exists only at this very moment, and in this moment it is infinite and eternal, for the present moment is infinitely small; before we can measure it, it has gone, and yet it exists forever.

Anon


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Saturday, February 2, 2013

Friday, February 1, 2013

Letting Go


“Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If, in our heart, we still cling to anything – anger, anxiety, or possessions – we cannot be free.”

Thich Nhat Hanh